What A Woman Really Wants

"What does a woman want?"

What a woman really want, is what she needs. 

In all honesty, there isn't much a woman wants if you subtract their individual needs from the general equation. I've broken them down to just three things.

Security

Assurance

Love

It is just those three really. 

She says she looks horrible. Assurance.

She constantly checks up on you. Security. Assurance.

She over thinks all the time. Security. Assurance.

She wants to cuddle. Security.

She wants you. Love.

It's really that straightforward, but it's always such a challenge to achieve them. 

Why?

Because we take things for granted and refuse to believe we are doing so. Also, guys can be forgetful.

I'm not saying that men want to. It's a human reaction to get used to things. To be so comfortable and so familiar with what they have that they forget to consciously think about it, and when you come to a point where you realise that things had gone sour, it will always be hard to admit you're in the wrong. But women always consciously think about it. It is hardwired into a woman to subconsciously be on the lookout always, and to be extremely sensitive to everything. Stroking her thumb while you hold hands and walk down a street registers in her brain as Love, Assurance and Security. A woman wants sex not just for enjoyment but also to satisfy her wants. 

A quickie is not just a romp accompanied with adrenaline rush. It could be a signal to her that either her man really wants her, satisfying her wants, or that her man really just wants sex, destroying her emotional fortress. Men can be forgetful. He may unintentionally forget to tell you that he was out with his friends and you've got a surprise for him that same night. This causes suspicion and mistrust and breaks a relationship.

To be able to give your woman what she wants, you need to be

Attentive

Self-less

Willing to sacrifice

Every men likes it when their woman blush from their attention. They take pride in being able to recognize that their woman is wearing a different lipstick or earrings. They take pride in knowing exactly what to order for her drink. 

But it's not as easy as that. 

Being attentive to someone else's needs means being self-less and being willing to sacrifice. Sacrifice can be as easy as giving up your time to her, and as hard as giving up your friends and family for her. It could be giving your last bite of the burger to her and also being completely open and vulnerable to her. 

To achieve all these, one must first be Mature. Women may say that they want a handsome man with big arms, taut chest and tight abs. But what she really wants is the need to be protected, to be loved, to always know that their men is theirs and will always be. Men want to lessen the annoyance and irritation of women, but what they don't understand is that, "to get what you want, you must first sacrifice."

You want sex? Take the time to romance your lady. 

Your want her time? Go look for her and sacrifice your computer game session with your buddies.

You want her to stop overthinking and being insecure? Talk about it and be prepared to sacrifice. 

You want her to stop whining? Subdue your emotional intolerance and give her a deep kiss.

You want her to stay? Then give her what she wants.

It's not much too ask for three things. She doesn't need a big car, or a big house, or a big credit card. What she really wants is just three things. If she wants more, add that to the list of your woman's individual want. What I'm sharing here is the basic fundamentals of the female's mandatory needs stretching across the centuries, from the very beginning of prehistoric times. It is a very primal instinct that resides in every woman.

"What does a woman want?"

A woman wants you to want her. And every nitty bitty bits that comes with it.

If you can't keep her happy with these three things, either you're doing it wrong or she's just not the one for you. 

And women, don't be demanding. We girls may need some essential needs but not every man can fufill it.